There are so many little things that friends, family members and coworkers say (and do) that drive us nuts. The problem is that it’s almost always easier to clam up and say nothing about it. (In fact, if passive aggressive behavior could power our automobiles, we probably wouldn’t be dealing with that oil spill in the Gulf right now.)

It’s one of those deals where you know you should say something, and you know things would be better if you did – but you don’t. You remember the times you said something and nothing changed. The person becomes so difficult to deal with if you do say something that you figure “why bother?”. The thought of simply leaving the relationship enters your mind, but you sense you’ll have the same problem with the next person.

We all know what the answer is: you’ve got to say what’s on your mind.  You’ve got to have have those difficult conversations. The question becomes how, where, and  when. I imagine some do this well and others don’t, so it’s up to the pros to teach the neophytes.

If you’re a “pro”, we need your help: please share your secrets…