ok, let me start the conversation by saying something counter-intuitive: I don’t think anyone can find true happiness. that’s the way life is. but we CAN find happy moments. I’ll take those any day, because in the end, those moments add up.
It is harder right now. I’m a classic example of being underemployed and that creates a lot of stress.
To counter the stress, I’m taking time to do things that alleviate the stress. Long walks with the dog help. So did the rainbow a couple of nights ago. (I took it as a sign of hope).
I’ve got more time to spend with my family. These things aren’t eliminating the situation we’re in, but they help create a balance.
Someone said the following to me a few months ago, and it really resonated with me: “you won’t find real happiness until you are grateful for what you have in your life.”
I have found happiness will come your way when you stop thinking about what’s wrong in your life, appreciate what’s right and most of all…spread some kindness to others.
Mom used to say “What goes around, comes around” and she was absolutely right!
If you feel like an “outsider” a lot, spend more time trying to get comfortable living on the “outside,” instead of always trying to get on the “inside.” I try to do things every day that give me pleasure. Music, animals, and love provide ecstasy.
Life is what you make it, plain and simple. However I do find that so many people today are just out for themselves, which to some extent is fine. What and who can you trust anymore?
I agree with Carol, or with what her mother had to say. Some people try so hard to be something they are not, I know, I found out the hard way.
Enjoy the life you have, stop running to find greener pastures. If your grass isn’t so green, remedy it, if you don’t like the music, turn the dial. Listen to reason before you judge, you may have lost someone or something that could have made a wonderful difference in your life.
Finding happiness all comes down to one thing, and that’s honesty. Honesty with yourself first and foremost about who you are in the truest sense, and what your needs are as opposed to your wants.
I meet all kinds of people from all kinds of backgrounds, and I do this all day, every day. Many of these people I get to know as people, and it never ceases to amaze me how many of them have sold out. Sold their souls in the name of money, & perception. I call it that “I’m kind of a big deal” syndrome. They work jobs they hate, to buy shit they don’t need, and marry people they don’t like, and have kids they don’t want in an effort to keep up with the Jones. They fall in love with these conceptions of what the perfect little life is, and how they’re viewed by others, but when it comes down to brass tacks, their lives are as big a mess as anyones.
I know it sounds a little “tree huggerish”, but I don’t think it’s possible to ever really be happy, until people know themselves, and what it is that makes their engine run smooth. That’s what life is, it’s about finding purpose, and reason to be here….it’s purely functional. Once we find our function, and are honest about what we need in life as opposed to what we want, I honestly believe that happiness is inevitable…
webguygary says
ok, let me start the conversation by saying something counter-intuitive: I don’t think anyone can find true happiness. that’s the way life is. but we CAN find happy moments. I’ll take those any day, because in the end, those moments add up.
Kim Grehn says
It is harder right now. I’m a classic example of being underemployed and that creates a lot of stress.
To counter the stress, I’m taking time to do things that alleviate the stress. Long walks with the dog help. So did the rainbow a couple of nights ago. (I took it as a sign of hope).
I’ve got more time to spend with my family. These things aren’t eliminating the situation we’re in, but they help create a balance.
Jeff Stoecker says
Someone said the following to me a few months ago, and it really resonated with me: “you won’t find real happiness until you are grateful for what you have in your life.”
Seems simple, but sometimes the right answer is.
Carol says
I like Jeff’s comment.
I have found happiness will come your way when you stop thinking about what’s wrong in your life, appreciate what’s right and most of all…spread some kindness to others.
Mom used to say “What goes around, comes around” and she was absolutely right!
Binnie Klein says
If you feel like an “outsider” a lot, spend more time trying to get comfortable living on the “outside,” instead of always trying to get on the “inside.” I try to do things every day that give me pleasure. Music, animals, and love provide ecstasy.
Sara says
Is there such a thing as true happiness anymore?
Life is what you make it, plain and simple. However I do find that so many people today are just out for themselves, which to some extent is fine. What and who can you trust anymore?
I agree with Carol, or with what her mother had to say. Some people try so hard to be something they are not, I know, I found out the hard way.
Enjoy the life you have, stop running to find greener pastures. If your grass isn’t so green, remedy it, if you don’t like the music, turn the dial. Listen to reason before you judge, you may have lost someone or something that could have made a wonderful difference in your life.
Ron Carrano says
Finding happiness all comes down to one thing, and that’s honesty. Honesty with yourself first and foremost about who you are in the truest sense, and what your needs are as opposed to your wants.
I meet all kinds of people from all kinds of backgrounds, and I do this all day, every day. Many of these people I get to know as people, and it never ceases to amaze me how many of them have sold out. Sold their souls in the name of money, & perception. I call it that “I’m kind of a big deal” syndrome. They work jobs they hate, to buy shit they don’t need, and marry people they don’t like, and have kids they don’t want in an effort to keep up with the Jones. They fall in love with these conceptions of what the perfect little life is, and how they’re viewed by others, but when it comes down to brass tacks, their lives are as big a mess as anyones.
I know it sounds a little “tree huggerish”, but I don’t think it’s possible to ever really be happy, until people know themselves, and what it is that makes their engine run smooth. That’s what life is, it’s about finding purpose, and reason to be here….it’s purely functional. Once we find our function, and are honest about what we need in life as opposed to what we want, I honestly believe that happiness is inevitable…
Kim Grehn says
Music is a great source of happiness…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3i0DMbCKnAg&feature=fvwrel